Michelle Obama’s Dating Advice To Today’s Tinder Generation

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Michelle Obama gave some insight into what it takes for long-term relationships.

Michelle and Barack will celebrate their 28th wedding anniversary next month and on a new episode of The Michelle Obama Podcast, she opened up about the ins and outs.

“There were times that I wanted to push Barack out of the window. And I say that because it’s like, you’ve got to know the feelings will be intense. But that doesn’t mean you quit,” she said to guest Conan O’Brien. “And these periods can last a long time. They can last years.”

“Young couples, they face these challenges and they’re ready to give up because they think they’re broken,” she explained. “And I just want to say, look, if that breaks a marriage, then Barack and I have been broken off and on, throughout our marriage, but we have a very strong marriage. And if I had given up on it, if I had walked away from it, in those tough times, then I would’ve missed all the beauty that was there as well.”

The former first lady also likened choosing a partner in today’s dating scene to “picking your basketball team.”

“We’d have better marriages,” she remarked. “If you’re looking at a team, the people you want to win with, then number one, you want everybody on your team to be strong, right? You don’t want any weak links, you don’t want somebody that you can dominate.”

“Also, if you’re on a team, you’ve got to be able to do everything —especially in basketball, it’s like, you would never pick somebody that says, ‘I only dribble. I don’t shoot, I don’t defend, I just dribble.'”

She added, “There’s no magic way to make that happen except getting the basics of finding somebody, being honest about wanting to be with them, to date them seriously, to plan on making a commitment, to date them, seeing where it goes, and then making it happen. You can’t Tinder your way into a long-term relationship.”

Oh snap! She told it like it is.