Tamera Mowry’s niece was killed in the California bar massacre and she expressed her pain while appearing on The Talk yesterday. 

“Our family’s been through a lot. But the interesting thing about grief is that you’ve got to find the balance of moving forward and grieving at the same time,” she said of her niece, 18-year-old Alaina Housley, who was killed at the Borderline Bar & Grill in Thousand Oaks, Calif. when a gunman opened fire and left 12 people dead.

She added, “It’s just been a little over two weeks. She would want me to be here and she would want me, sweet Alaina, to move forward. I don’t like to say move on, because I don’t think I’ll ever move on with the fact that she’s not here with me or with our family.”

Speaking on the impact of gun violence, she said, “[Alaina] would want me to move forward and to use her voice as a catalyst for change, and that’s why I’m here today,” adding, “We need change when it comes to gun violence. And I don’t care if I have to knock on the doors of the White House to do it, to advocate change.”