It takes a really strong man to be in a relationship with the Queen of all things, Oprah.

Stedman Graham rarely gives interviews, and in a very special sit down with Ellen DeGeneres, he opens up about his love for his beautiful lady.

Stedman explains that to have any successful relationship, you must first understand your own identity and have agency in your own aspirations, because only then will you be able to support your partner through theirs.

“Well, the thing about our relationship is, so I’m dedicated to her happiness, so that’s great for her and I want her to be the best she can possibly be and she’s done a pretty good job of doing that,” he said. “And so for me, I’ve been able to find my own happiness, my own skills, my own talents, my own abilities and I’m satisfied with that. I’m happy with that.”

His new book, Identity Leadership, is on sale now.

Stedman’s new book, Identity Leadership, was released earlier this month. And we don’t know about you… but we’re marching to Barnes & Nobles right now.