RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: What Would Andy Cohen Do?
You know we love us some Andy Cohen. The guy is funny, brash, honest, and loves eating edibles while partying at the Met Gala with A-listers — in other words, he’s totally our people.
We at Hollywood Holler realized that not only is Andy one of America’s best friends, but he’s also super intelligent when it comes to giving advice. That’s why we’ve come up with a smart way to collect his array of lessons so we can disperse them to the common world, i.e. all of us.
The Bravo TV superstar, and host of Watch What Happens Live With Andy Cohen and Love Connection, has had a real education in the romance department. Clearly the guy knows how to play matchmaker, so it’s high time we start following his advice. Here are some tips that stick out:
Be Genuine, No Matter How Well-Off You Are
In a recent interview with Attitude, Andy said that being a visible personality hasn’t affected his love life — or so he thinks:
“I’m not conscious of it, but that might be the case for the person dating me,” he said, adding, “I think it’s harder for other people to sit down with me and have a date because they have preconceived notions. If I had never dated myself or I didn’t know me and it was just based on TV, I don’t know what I would think. I have no idea.”
The lesson here is no matter if you’re an Average Joe or a famous Joe, be like Andy and don’t focus on fame or a successful job to define your personal value. It’s always best to think outside that particular box. Still, it doesn’t mean you can’t use your status to play the field: “I still hook up. I mean, a guy’s gotta eat!” he quipped.
Value One’s Intimacy More Than Their Sex Position
For all the gay guys out there, Andy will definitely tell you to be yourself when it comes to dating — we all have our preferences. But as for him, he chooses not to adhere to the “top” or “bottom” sex labels because it might have preconceived notions.
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“The connotation about being a top or a bottom, I think for the person/the spectator who from the outside, or who can just be looking to make a generalization, it insinuates ‘Who’s the man and who’s the woman?’ which obviously is outdated,” he said to Attitude. “The truth about today is that everybody’s topped and everybody’s bottomed at one point in life; it’s more of an open playing field. People have a lot of variations about sex and it’s safe to say I am well on board the train and enjoying the ride.”
Support Everyone’s Search For Love
Andy Cohen is a hell of a great wingman, which to the outside world reveals the size of not only his heart but also his well of compassion. The host has made it very clear he’s acted as John Mayer’s wingman — and who knows who else!
“We have a very sweet friendship, and we are together all the time. I think that I was not surprised because we also have a great love for each other. So, it just seems like the obvious assumption,” Andy said in a CNN interview about the rumors he and John were dating.
Know What You Want
In the same CNN interview, Andy Cohen added that he’s not blind to what he’s looking for in a man: “What am I looking for? I’m looking for someone strong, independent, smart, who has their own thing going on.”
In other words, be comfortable in your own skin and don’t feel a need to jump on someone else’s success to define your own. Carry yourself independently, and you’ll be surprised to see how many people you attract. Heck, you might see Andy slide into your DMs.
If You’re Not Feeling It, Move On
In case you didn’t know, Andy and bestie Anderson Cooper were once set up on a blind date. While the two got along swimmingly, it was kind of a collective understanding that the two might not be totally compatible. But unlike most people who might get butt-hurt and never speak again, he and Anderson were mature enough to know that there are other fish in the sea!
“We had a phone call to set up the date. I was a young reporter at ABC, he was at CBS and I knew within 45 seconds I was never going on a date with Andy Cohen,” Anderson said to Jimmy Fallon. “He violated my cardinal rule, which is he asked me about my mom within the first minute of talking to me.”
“I wanted to date the Vanderbilt boy. I was excited,” added Andy. “I remember that something that I did made him shut down. So now I know.” But, “You know what, it worked out for the best; here we are.”