No one wants love making to be mundane. (Leave that for the peasants!) With sexual education being so accessible online, there’s no reason for hanky panky to get boring. In fact, it should be as exciting as watching that “special” scene from your favorite movie!

Take a second to think back to your favorite sexy scene… do you have one? Mine’s the three-way from American Psycho — actually, anything with Christian Bale in it is fine with me.

Ask yourself what is it about that scene that gets you going? (Besides Christian Bale).

Is it the environment? The story? The situation? The angles? The passion? Find whatever it is that stimulates your imagination, and try and turn it into sense memory. Hanky panky should simulate not only your body, but your mind as well. In fact, the mind should be your first target.

This is easier said than done, I know, particularly for those engaged in long-term relationships where making love like it were the first time is long gone. That being said, it’s time to rekindle the past.

Here are a few hacks that always come in handy when you need to reinvigorate the senses and give an Oscar worthy performance in bed.

#1) Set the Scene.

Sex should be an experience, and it’s up to you to set the scene. More often than not, being intimate in a relationship means making it routine, which should never become the norm. Doing the deed shouldn’t feel like an obligation.

Try taking it into another room to keep it interesting. Seems simple, but every room introduces a different feel thanks to various textures, light and ambiance. Reflect back to your favorite scene. Why not imitate that (for starters)?

#1) Introduce More Anticipation.

Making your partner wait can be a miraculous thing, you know. Waiting for a climatic conclusion makes it even more exhilarating, which is also a large reason why movie scenes are huge turn on. They’re teasing us!

Here’s a tip: gently graze your partner’s body from bottom to top (clothing optional). You want to tease them, and get them to tremble uncontrollably before you go in for the kill! This kind of anticipation prompts a much more passionate performance by your partner. Don’t be scared for a build up. Be patient.

#2) Body Heat.

Heat creates hypersensitivity around the body’s most sensitive nerve endings, so warming up the area around your partner’s private members can arouse an out of body experience. Blood naturally travels towards heat.

I advise trying a warming gel to get things heated up — massage their inner thighs and lower abs to get the blood boiling in sensitive spots. And here’s an extra hot tip: Sip something warm before making use of your mouth, trust me, it will make them melt.

#3) Utilize Your Tongue, Save the Spit.

You’ve got them hot waiting, so why not slip him a little something? The secret to offering the best oral experience is saliva. Seems straightforward enough, right? Wrong! You might think it’s important to use loads of spit, but sometimes less is more.

Try getting him wet with a water based lube. The more spit you use the more tired your tongue will be, which means it will lose its ability to perform its many talents. Utilizing a lube gives us guys more control.

#4) Offer a Rub Down.

How can you help your partner get in the mood? That’s easy — a massage! Sometimes a sensual massage is all it takes to set yourself up for a little lovin’. Try taking inventory of their sore spots, and after working through those, make your way toward more erotic areas like the chest, lower abs, lower back, and butt.

Taking the time to help relieve tension can increase blood flow.

#5) Dry Hump Action.

When’s the last time you actually celebrated hump day? Try a little dry hump action. (I’m serious, it can actually be very sex). Keeping your clothes on while fooling around creates friction and even more anticipation for the act. Take a little time to build the tension before taking it all off.